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MAKING PEACE WITH DYING:
A PROPOSAL FOR PASTORAL SUPPORT

by
Robert L. Evans
St. Norbert College
De Pere, WI

A thesis project submitted in partial fulfillment
of the requirements for the degree
of

Master of Theological Studies




Approved:
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Rev. Dalene Fuller Rogers, M. Div., Thesis Director
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Rev. John Tourangeau, M. Div., Reader
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Joanne Dupont Sandoval, Ph.D., Reader


© 2006 Robert L. Evans. All rights reserved.
The author hereby grants to St. Norbert College permission to reproduce and distribute publicly paper and electronic copies of this thesis document in whole or in part.



ABSTRACT



There is a need for Roman Catholic Church initiatives today in the United States to assist people in dealing with issues of mortality and making peace with the inevitability of their death. Cumulative changes in demographics, healthcare, culture and Church have combined to create a poverty in meaning, faith-community and hope among believers with regard to their individual eschatologies. This poverty can be addressed through the lessons of the paschal mystery and recovering a living praxis of faith that involves a component of kenosis (self-emptying). Elements of a pastoral support program are proposed in this thesis which is intended to help prepare people for their eventual death in the context of the Catholic faith tradition.


CONTENTS



CHAPTER 1. INTRODUCTION . . . . . 4

The Crux of the Problem

My Perspective

CHAPTER 2. FAITH . . . . . . 16

The Nature and Meaning of Faith

Faith in the Context of Death

Death in the Traditional Balance of Christian Formation

The Prophetic Role of the Church

CHAPTER 3. TAKING STOCK . . . . . 40

Changes Today

A Survey of Our Situation

CHAPTER 4. PASCHAL MYSTERY . . . . 68

The Paschal Mystery as “The Way”

Recovering Faith Community, Meaning and Hope in the Paschal Mystery

Summary

CHAPTER 5. A PROPOSAL . . . . . 86

Anticipating the Inherent Unmarketability of the Way of Christ

A Proposal for Death Ministry

WORKS CITED . . . . . . . 108




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CHAPTER 1. INTRODUCTION

The Crux of the Problem
I wish to speak of a poverty in this document, a poverty that has been building for generations in our Christian, Western culture with hardly notice or mention beyond the episodic observation by a theologian or philosopher. This is not about budgets, or social programs or the 401K plans that do seem to capture much of popular attention and conversation in our North American nation. But it is a poverty that affects everyone importantly and taps deep into the very soul of our human condition with its attendant dilemmas. This is a poverty not of money but of meaning, faith-community and hope; meaning being the most crucial factor since I believe the need for meaning is the strongest adult instinct in our species. It is a distinctly Christian form of poverty in death ministry, but tightly coupled and shaped by the culture and era.
The deficit is even more remarkable in context of the apparent abundance that marks our world today. Never before in the history of humankind has there existed the amount and diversity of resources available, both in material and intellectual forms, to address problems that confront persons or simply make life more comfortable and enjoyable, provided they are lucky enough to have the access. Ernest Becker described our intellectual situation as “choking on truth,” that we have so much information it has become difficult to compile it all and connect the dots meaningfully.1 If our lives in this
age are compared against those of all of our human predecessors, one realizes how
blessed we are with a wealth of advantages; in fact, it surprises one as the blessings begin to be counted.
Even the most archetypal, central and inescapable dilemma of self-aware humankind--the certainty of personal death--has seen an accumulation of methods and knowledge to temporarily resist this most formidable of all adversaries. We now have better understanding, technologies and means to delay or counter (though not defeat) its power in forms unimaginable even less than a century ago. In this respect, our position is on virgin ground unreached by any of our homo-sapien ancestors in the thousands of preceding years of civilized existence.
In other respects however, despite these overwhelming advantages, there are warning signs that we have lost ground and actually are less capable than past humanity. Specifically, I believe we are less prepared for death, an event in everyone’s life that still remains as much an existential, spiritual and physical problem for us as it did for our predecessors. This is not to deny that today there is much available concerning the pragmatic planning needs for death such as estate and funeral planning, what kind of information to prepare and how to get this delivered to the family in a timely manner, what kinds of medical intervention a person desires for one’s self at the end. While such practicality is necessary and good, it leaves important facets and the deeper issues of facing mortality unaddressed. So, even more specifically, what I want to address is the poverty I discern in modern Christianity’s response to the pastoral demands with regard to what Monica Hellwig terms “individual eschatology.” She warns:
Many good Christians no longer know what to think about death, judgement,


heaven, hell, purgatory, life after death, praying for the dead and praying to the saints.
There is an uncomfortable feeling abroad that what we used to be taught does not hold
anymore and that there is nothing to take its place. Moreover there is an awareness
that not much is being written or published that seems to help solve the problem of this
gap.2

Not only do we have less guidance, but this is also occurring while circumstances around dying and death are creating a metaphorical ever-steeper and more-problematic slope. There are many factors to this “gap,” a contributor to what I am calling a poverty. There are also compelling reasons why these particular shortfalls are especially debilitating in the contemporary environment and will become even more so if the present trends continue to play out. This one observation by Hellwig, pondered in isolation from other dynamics, would seem to imply that the answer lies just in a catechetical response; better and more thorough religious education is sufficient to close the gap. However, this response leads to a simplistic answer falling within the category of just another, though different, style of pragmatic planning resource and ignores the complexity of our current, and evolving, situation. Rollo May adds his voice to the warning from a different quarter that speaks to a broader, underlying deficit.
Every individual seeks–indeed must seek if he or she is to remain sane–to bring
some order and coherence into the stream of sensations, emotions, and ideas
entering his or her consciousness from within or without. Each one of us is forced to
do deliberately for oneself what in previous ages was done by family, custom, church,
and state, namely, form the myths in terms of which we can make some sense
of experience.3

It is important to know that May refers to myth not as a fanciful--and untrue--story, but as a conceptual system for making meaning; I will discuss this later.
By considering these two quotes in concert, the contours of our poverty begin to take rough definition. Both imply a collapse of supportive resources that individuals and communities had depended upon to stitch together some coherency and sense in their lives when unhinging events, especially such as death, came their way. Moreover, they imply that the needs demand more than relevant information by itself; that there is also a suffering from insufficient forms of activity and fraternity. For just one moment, stop and consider the level of complexity and difficultly involved here--in the task each poor soul has of bringing order and coherence, on one’s own--in this age of information (and mis-information) crescendo. Now on top of that, add in the deftness needed to negotiate all this amidst the emotional confusion and loss of center one suffers while in deep grieving, and by this I mean to include anticipatory grieving which can be very real and heartfelt.
As Christians, we know almost immediately from our faith tradition that God’s guidance and support have always had a major role in this mission of maintaining sanity and hope under duress. As just one of many possible examples, remember that John 20:19-24 tells how the post-Easter apostles could not leave their hiding until empowered by the Spirit to accept and move beyond their traumatic injury. This is an example of faith brought to bear fruitfully in the lives of believers like us, while they grieved a death, and it gives us a narrative model against which we can compare our own life-experiences.
Narrative examples from our extensive tradition are important because with these models we can measure our own experiences and responses and in this way get a rough feel for how we are doing. The positive lessons these examples hold can be weighed with the observations of Hellwig and May, giving us a template to reveal the hidden deficits we may be experiencing in our own lives. Connecting this tool with my stated intent, I want to narrow the definition one step further. What I want to discuss is a need for Church initiatives today, in the United States, in regard to how we face our own mortality and anticipate our own death. To put this colloquially, how can our faith help us to make peace with dying? Additionally, I want to explicitly recover and expose the unique strengths in Christianity in this context.
While the passion narrative is the most obvious of all the Gospel stories on this theme, it is too complex and involved to be considered here, so will be attended to more completely later. Instead, there are a couple of simple pericopes from the New Testament that I offer as benchmarks to be used as comparative points for pastoral ministry. These can be used as thought-experiments to gauge the success of today’s Church in providing support for people facing their own death. Again, leaning on the colloquial, is the North American Church emulating these examples in helping us to make peace with dying? Let me make clear one thing; when I say Church, I mean the Roman Catholic Church, as understood and reframed by the Second Vatican Council, as the people of God. Thus, credit and blame are owned by all members of this Church, no one escapes responsibility, and all are called to respond respectively. Additionally, I will add the modifier “Christian” when I intend the entire catholic body. This being set down, I offer these two Scripture passages as pertinent and helpful benchmarks.
Using the first, let us reflect on how often we find a contemporary, apparently with enough Christian formation and centering, who can model St. Paul’s ambivalence towards preferring his life or his death?
For to me, living is Christ and dying is gain. If I am to live in the flesh, that means
fruitful labor for me; and I do not know which I prefer. I am hard pressed between the
two: my desire is to depart and be with Christ for that is far better; but to remain in the
flesh is more necessary for you (Phil. 1:21-24).4

The sentiment Paul expresses could be touted as the ideal expression of a Christian with respect to their death; to be torn between the activities of life here on earth, but at the same time with a true yearning for death as a departure leading to reunion with Jesus Christ. For Paul, death is neither a failure nor the enemy. So, using this as a measure for our own faith, how far off this mark are we from being in this ideal mind, and what are the reasons we are so far off?
Admittedly, Paul has a couple of advantages over us and so could hold this fervent posture that we struggle to even approach. He experienced Jesus Christ firsthand in his epiphany and a liminal experience like that is a rare and fixing thing, not available to most of us. But also, Paul was convinced that the parousia was imminent in his generation, a paradigm we no longer hold. Even so, as an ideal, how does one even begin to capture this sensibility that Paul had with death as a positive and hopeful event in his life, rather than a dreaded fate? How far away from his stance are we as individual Christians or collectively as Church? Why? What is needed to begin to understand and appropriate some of Paul’s view?
The second scriptural benchmark documents an active response from an average, unsanctioned member of Jesus’ society and speaks to the communal and supportive potential within our faith. It takes place in a home just a couple miles outside of Jerusalem during the high holy days, a time known to be charged with political tension and messianic anticipation. The Romans would bring more soldiers into the city for the Passover celebration to monitor Jewish activities and guard against trouble. In Mark, this passage occurs the night before Jesus intends to enter Jerusalem and is arrested, so it is reasonable to assume all present were aware of his intentions and of the impending danger.
While he was at Bethany in the house of Simon the leper, as he sat at the table, a
woman came with an alabaster jar of very costly ointment of nard, and she broke open
the jar and poured the ointment on his head. . . . But Jesus said, “She has performed a
good service for me. . . . She has done what she could; she has anointed my body
beforehand for its burial. Truly I tell you, wherever the good news is proclaimed to the
whole world, what she has done will be told in remembrance of her” (Mark 14:3-9).

Here I have deliberately omitted the controversy about the money, because in our culture the controversy upstages the lesson in the ritual--an anointing, a Jewish traditional form charged with symbolism and functional import--which is performed no less by a woman, a person lacking religious status! Jesus himself seems to argue that the money issue is a distraction. The key point here is that in compassion, affection and solidarity, she performs this ritual anticipating his ominous journey into Jerusalem. This action serves not only as statement of Jesus’ status as Messiah by traditional meaning, but also as a preparatory act for the death that will eventually come and Jesus is explicit in his identification of the latter purpose as such. He also is explicit in its significance.
Again, this pericope provides a template against which to compare our pastoral responses in death ministry. Apart from the sacrament of anointing, what rituals exist that bring a community together in support of a person, or persons, who are wrestling with their “individual eschatology”? What other actions do Church and community take to show compassion, affection and solidarity around the issues of death and dying--no matter how far in the future they might be? I make this last point because perception is reality, and psychology has long acknowledged that we all go through developmental stages at our individual pacing. For most of us, one of those crucial stages will be coming to grips with our own mortality and it is difficult to predict when this issue will surface for anyone. When these demons surface, is there any supportive response available today from the Church? More will be mined from these two passages in a later section.
I chose these two passages as benchmarks because they document a being and a doing in regard to facing mortality. They reflect the theological pattern in the contemplative life and active life of a believer described by Thomas Aquinas in his Summa Theologica. They are living examples from the wealth of our faith tradition and are helpful to us in gauging our options for preparing. For a personality developed in a balanced and informed process of formation, the lessons of faith become integrated into daily life, a path that may lead to the ideal mind of St. Paul. Having that sort of ideal mind in place, which grounds the life-perspective in faith, a person becomes freed by awareness and hope in order to respond with appropriate action. These two different resources in death ministry, a formation of faith that leads to centered understanding and meaningful acting are held in balance in the Christian posture towards death and dying. Other resources can be found, but these are sufficient to begin the conversation.
Considering all of the points previously made then--using them in an intellectual exercise as a rough measure for how we are doing in our contemporary world--begs the question, “So, is it possible in this age, with all its advances and information, that a person can still die badly?” My experiences in providing lay pastoral care to persons in hospitals and hospices sadly affirms this can and does happen too often. I have sat by the bedside of too many dying persons, no other of their family or friends present, or listened to family anguish when a priest was unable to make an anointing in time before death occurred. I have seen too many patients lost in the medical system without advocates and too compromised to speak for themselves. I have heard too many cries against an insensitive God who did not provide the miracle or relief that people thought their faith promised would be rendered in time of need by fervent prayer. This is what I worry about and why I became resolved to bring this issue to bear in this paper.
The short answer to whether bad deaths still occur, and the crux of the remainder of this text, is that there must be a measured response by the Church in this area and, to repeat, by Church I refer to all members as part of the Body of Christ. Conditions and ideas are changing too rapidly and significantly for the response to continue to be limited to observation and commiserating about the deficits we all see. This is a call to action. I do not intend to map out extensively or comprehensively what activities or formative processes need to be installed, but the conversation about this needs to start now. With everything else going on in our world, it is easy to miss the urgency in this issue which is why the next two sections of this paper will be an analysis of what is lacking and why this deficiency is so injurious for people approaching the end of their life, literally or conceptually. For I believe that how we address this will impact the shape, direction, and relevance of Christianity within this twenty-first century.
A crucial part of our Christian heritage is muted and its absence imbalances the spiritual direction and formative understanding reaching the people. Without it, in times of severe stress and loss, they are dangerously disarmed and left to their own devices in an increasingly opportunistic and secular world. Worse, they find themselves in this exposed, vulnerable state as they face death. It is particularly notable that in his book The Public Church, a book that discusses a myriad of challenges facing the Christian Church in this modern age, Martin Marty makes this statement in his concluding chapter:
Catholic theologian Monika Hellwig once alerted us, during the prime years of the
theology of hope, that no such theology makes sense unless it gains resonances in the
homes for the aged or in the wards of the terminally ill. People there are living in a
hope that is not dependent upon public action but upon the promise of God that love is
stronger than death, and that nothing shall separate believers from the love of God in
Christ Jesus.5

In summary, these are some of the data that lead me to express my belief that our Church is experiencing a poverty in part of its task and call, perhaps even one of its most important tasks. Effort is required in theology (if we are to believe Marty), pastoral ministry and community response in order to redress the shortfalls. If not, the situation can only worsen to our collective detriment. Thus, let us begin the work of rebuilding the Church.
My Perspective
I have made some bold statements in the preceding section; now is the time for some corresponding humility since I must expose and admit to my limited perspective. I am a 50 year old, middle-class white male, born and raised in the United States; a cradle- Catholic who rarely went outside the religious confines of my Church to learn an extensive, or comprehensive, amount about any other denomination or faith-perspective.
I have lived a mostly privileged life, only suffering monetary or material want in a few brief occasions. I grew up in a traditional Roman Catholic family with four sisters and a brother. My dad, though he was of Methodist upbringing, attended our church all my life and came into full communion with the Catholic faith when I was in college. I have never been married, only briefly engaged and have no children.
My education began with parochial elementary school, followed by public school thereon until college, at which point I attended a state technical school, receiving two bachelor of science degrees. My first career was in the technical electrical and electronics field, which I then left after a dozen years to meander through a number of volunteer and intern positions (and for a 9-month stay in Bogota, Colombia) until embarking on the ministry training of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE) for lay pastoral care. I have provided lay pastoral care in hospitals, convalescent-care homes, hospices and assisted-living facilities for eight years in both full and part-time positions.
I have never been in any formal religious training or seminary. My theological training in the MTS program of St. Norbert College only began in earnest in 1998, after CPE, though I had always browsed through books of popular theological bent, such as those of Thomas Merton or Henri Nouwen. So my theological powers are new and developing.
I offer all this only because these are the factors that shape my perspective and create regions of blindness. In my writing I will make statements that will seem as if I imagine I can speak for all, or have total objectivity and amazing powers of omniscience--of course this is not the case and I do so out more of out enthusiasm and ignorance than arrogance or malice. While believing I do have some ideas to contribute to the continuing conversation of our faith, I am also aware that they need to hold enough humility to allow challenge and constructive criticism by my peers and superiors and that they only have the promise of fruit in the context of the larger dialogue within the entire Church and larger world.
Thus, my thoughts cannot adequately represent the circumstances in other nations or religions, may not jibe well for the ethnic communities in our nation or capture a true perspective of persons in a different socioeconomic class, sexual persuasion or gender. Like the expression of looking down the well, the contents of this paper may best correspond to the reflection in the waters surface, i.e., myself and my circumstances--though I offer appropriation and appreciation where it resonates for any other reader of this material.
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CHAPTER 2. FAITH



The Nature and Meaning of Faith
The theme that I have chosen for this paper is death, but at its fundamental level this is really a discussion of faith, faith in the Christian context as a tool for dealing with death. There are many ways that people attempt to cope with death, but I believe faith is the most consistently meaningful and successful way. The human species is hardwired for the need for meaning and death is our biggest existential and spiritual puzzler, so it is no surprise that dealing with this dilemma is at the core of all great religions, whether ancient or relatively recent, though they come up with radically different approaches.
Having said this, an immediate difficulty is defining what faith actually is and how it functions in our lives. A comprehensive definition of faith is beyond the scope of this paper, but there are a couple of significant deviations I wish to consider that have driven popular culture into the poverty mentioned earlier. The fact that heritage Christian faith even incorporates an understanding of death (other than the death of Jesus) into its theology might surprise a lot of people today because of the shifts in modern understanding. More often than not, the message of Jesus is often now popularly cast as simply establishing right from wrong, good from bad; Jesus is seen as the ultimate spokesman and model for orthodoxy, drawing us the quintessential road map of correctness leading to salvation. This is reflected in the current popularity of the phrase, “What-would-Jesus-do?” In this paradigm one wants to gain solid membership in the “good” camp, mostly by claiming relationship with Jesus and doing “good” things, and
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steer clear of those people and actions that are “bad.” This is not to say that orthodoxy is not a component of faith, nor that there are not distinctions between right and wrong. However, there are clues that this simplistic definition of faith is discordant with the Gospels. For example, they record that Jesus often caught criticism for hanging out with the “wrong” crowd. This definition of faith would appear to miss something more fundamental and, taking the long view, deviates from traditional understanding.
Most current biblical academia has agreed upon the kingdom as the central message of Jesus in his ministry. Nearly everything he said and did was connected to fulfillment of this kingdom or bringing it to people’s attention. Albert Nolan writes that, by the time of Jesus, suffering, persecution and death had long been a part of the Jewish mythology in their faith stance, and had been modeled and proclaimed by their prophets. The message of Jesus was different. “Jesus had a new teaching and, in terms of that new teaching, suffering and death were closely associated with the coming of the kingdom.”6 Thus it would appear his understanding of faith contains another functional component; membership and practice in a correct orthodoxy is not enough and there are a plethora of scriptural examples where Jesus makes just that case (e.g., Mark 2:23-28, Matt. 15:1-20, Luke 18:9-14). Jesus is instructing about and urging us toward more than this. We run the risk of repeating the mistake of the rich man of the Gospels who thinks he has the bases covered by doing all the correct things, in his case “keeping the commandments” (Matt. 19:17). He was not able to understand nor accept the kenosis that Jesus holds out as an essential component of faith, kenosis (or the self-emptying) in his case as giving up his apparent wealth. Today, much of comfortable Western Christianity ignores the kenotic component of faith.
The Gospel evangelist Luke has Jesus wondering out loud if “the Son of man” would find any faith on earth (Luke 18:8). This passage is in the context of practicing prayer as one component of faith, though we understand that it is not saying God will measure faith simply by the amount of praying he finds. Also, there is a purpose--a function--being held out for the praying; praying is not just for praying’s sake or as the proportional measure of faith. The prayer here is purposeful: for maintaining a consistent relationship with and reliance upon God. Other scriptural examples can be found which demonstrate that Jesus intended his teachings to be prescriptive. There is purpose behind them to aid us in navigating our lives faithfully, with coherent meaning and toward the beneficence that God intends (Isa. 55), not simply a recipe for correctness. “In the last analysis faith is not a way of speaking or a way of thinking, it is a way of living and can only be adequately articulated in a living praxis.”7
Despite the possible denial by or disbelief of our contemporaries, the question whether Jesus would still find faith today is appropriate, even in our predominantly religious nation.8 Father Rolheiser believes the movement away from traditional faith has a long trajectory. “When Nietzsche’s madman smashes his lantern and shouts: ‘God is dead and we are his murders!’ the murdering process he is referring to is one which has taken place gradually, almost imperceptibly, through many centuries.”9 Just as the few sample quotes presented in Chapter 1 imply, there is something apparently missing. Is faith as we define and understand it consistent with the one Jesus talked about? A faith that is not balanced, that chooses some of the message while discarding other portions of it, can lead to some very unhealthy consequences.
We seem to have found ourselves in an era of nominal Christianity, whereby persons identify themselves as Christians by name and observe a subset of the precepts in the faith, while neglecting others, even though for perfectly human and understandable reasons. Technically, we are all nominal Christians at times and to some degree when we fall short of the call given by Jesus Christ. What is different today is the degree by which so much popular religion misses the full message of Christ and so has a narrow vision of God. “Rather God is experienced and related to as a religion, a church, a moral philosophy, a guide for private virtue, an imperative for justice, or as a nostalgia for proper propriety.”10 Nominal Christianity is faith’s version of the Potemkin village: little substance behind the facade. Because of the functional component of faith as a way of living, this selective type of faith has its consequences in how it disables us.
In his book The Heart of Christianity, Marcus Borg has a chapter with an interesting comparison of the modern understanding of faith with the pre-modern expression. He states that faith is made up of head and heart components and today the former overwhelmingly predominates the latter. The need for literalistic truth is a fairly recent development, most likely a response to the Enlightenment, and the rise of sciences, which stress the successful understanding and use of accurate facts. That facts have become the currency of belief displacing metaphorical and mythical truth is corroborated by May. “There can be no stronger proof of the impoverishment of our contemporary culture than the popular-though profoundly mistaken-definition of myth as falsehood.”11
The pre-modern sense of faith was strongly tied to believing, not so much as intellectual assent to factual truth, but as a commitment to a truth that involved one’s passion. Borg recovers the ancient ties of the word believe to belove. Faith has a relational component. “Given the premodern meaning of ‘believe,’ to believe in God is to belove God.”12 Keeping this relational element in mind, and appreciating the committed nature that a faith as beloving God creates, one can at least begin to catch a faint glimpse how the martyrs were able to accept and face death for that faith. They were able to find ultimate meaning that was more important than the event of their deaths. By comparison, it is reasonable to say that today’s version of faith is emotionally disconnected from its source, except for superficial and episodic manifestations.
Given that the general state of Christian faith today falls short of that which Jesus preached, what difference does it make in our lives? What purpose does faith have in the day to day events, and especially when a crisis occurs? The sad events of Hurricane Katrina’s impact upon New Orleans provides a graphic analogy with nominal Christianity, that assists in describing the situation I see our population facing as the storm clouds of personal death approach. News coverage and personal accounts gave us a striking example of the awful consequences when protective structures, such as the waterway levees, no longer have the strength to act as they should. For whatever reason, be it poor design or maintenance, those barriers had eroded and then failed under the forces exposing the people to catastrophe which, for a while, they had to negotiate on their own. Before the storm appeared, most of these people thought the structures they saw were up to the job, and their authorities assured them they were.
Unfortunately, this can be an appropriate analogy for the situation I see in our American spirituality, though I want to focus later on the effects simply with regard to death and dying. The Church, and its repository of faith, has long had protective functions for its people, the ultimate of course being salvation. Christ did not incarnate simply to reiterate orthodoxy nor to undergo the passion, death and resurrection as an isolated redemptive act--functional but removed in personal relevance from all the people in the world. The protective nature in Christian faith derives from God’s intention and message held in the incarnation, passion and resurrection as lived by Christ. This intention holds personal relevance for each of us, now, and the lessons from Jesus Christ still tie directly to how we live our lives and understand our mythology. A proper grounding in, and practice of, our faith helps us to negotiate our daily lives meaningfully, connected to our God, no matter what disturbing events may come our way, though this does not mean that sorrow is not involved. This way of Christ is a route to the mind of St. Paul with regard to how he handled his fate, including hardships and death. Traditional Christian faith grounds our lives in essential meaning.
By analogy then, there are structures in Christianity that act as bulwarks to protect people against erosive and destructive forces. These structures are built on the foundation of Jesus Christ and the Gospels, and held together by the interpretive wisdom and teachings constructed over many years. Yet, remembering the warnings by Hellwig, May and Marty in the previous chapter, there is a significant body of data showing these structures have been weakened by neglect, misunderstanding or disuse. They no longer provide the protection needed in a rapidly changing world and must be afforded attention so they can be rebuilt properly and appropriate to the kinds of forces present. In this chapter, I will review the eroded nature of the popular understanding of faith and offer some general correctives.
Faith in the Context of Death
Returning to my original theme, the question arises--what does faith have to do with our ability to face death? Additionally, with all the significant challenges facing the Church in the United States today, why would the dearth of theological support for individual eschatology present a problem of any relative urgency. In a word, the answer to both is meaning.
Scientific studies have often pointed to the significance of death in the human condition, though there are two sides to this coin. The first is its motivational power. “Here we introduce one of the great rediscoveries of modern thought: that of all things that move man, one of the principal ones is his terror of death.”13 Ernest Becker, a social scientist, drove this point home is his notable text, which not only speaks of this event’s significance, but also how the underlying fear can be understood as the prime, though submerged, motivation for the dysfunction, strife and hatred that mars the historical track of humanity. He theorized that a deep, subconscious fear of death drives mans' motivations; thus we move to what he called “the heroic”--we attempt to find immortality either literally (which is impossible) or through meaning. If faith does not provide this function, man will automatically find another entity that will. In a companion text, Becker wrote:
Man still gropes for transcendence, but now this is not necessarily nature and
God, but the SS or the CIA; the only thing that remains constant is that the
individual still gives himself with the same humble trembling as the primitive to
this totemic ancestor. The stake is identical–immortality power–and the unit of
motivation is still the single individual and his fears and hopes.14

As our society becomes more secular, religion thus acting less in this role of connecting to the heroic, it turns to other mythic forces. Thus, increasing militarism and patriotism in our society might be the canary-in-the-mine signaling a diminution of mythic power in our modern distortion of religions and could account for the abundance of flag lapel pins. Again, I wish to stress that according to these studies, this meaning-mechanism occurs below our conscious notice. Also, religion and other ideologies are not necessarily mutually exclusive, but the danger lies in which source we choose, and ultimately place our faith in, for achieving the heroic.
The second side of the coin is the psychological need to avoid facing the personal reality of death. Most persons can deal with it in short exposures and superficially, but few can attend to their end directly and deeply, if at all, without the supporting structure of meaning. These studies also consider the mechanisms and reasons that such a basic existential and universal problem in the human conditions remains ostensibly out of our sight and daily awareness, or as Becker poetically described, “the deeper reason that Montaigne’s peasant isn’t troubled until the very end, when the Angel of Death, who has always been sitting on his shoulder, extends his wing.”15 Becker observed that Freud came to the conclusion that our unconscious does not know death, thus on a basic level we are programmed, in a sense, to deny death despite the apparent power it has over our lives. There is evidence of cultural differences in how this plays out among different nations, but this denial seems particularly strong in our country. Arnold Toynbee is quoted as saying that “death is un-American.”16
The essential Christian message, the Gospels of Jesus Christ, would seem to agree that death is a primary issue of our human existence and how we give meaning to that existence. While the climax of all four gospel texts is the resurrection, the centerpiece is the passion narrative. With respect to addressing the human condition, one could thus say that the Church should see the work around dealing with death as one of its main tasks. Obviously, this work is not only counter-cultural, but militates against the comfortable grain of human nature.
Refocusing on the Good News as passion narrative rather than resurrection is antagonistic to the human need to avoid death.17 We would prefer to repress and ignore the undesirable as Becker notes:
man cuts out for himself a manageable world: he throws himself into action
uncritically, unthinkingly. He accepts the cultural programming that turns his
nose where he is supposed to look; he doesn’t bite the world off in one piece as
a giant would, but in small manageable pieces, as a beaver does.18

We have recently heard the term of “dumbing down” characterizing some trends in education and general society. In similar fashion, what Becker is describing as an avoidance of our death issues could be considered an ongoing repression, which we all do so as not to go crazy, as a “numbing down.” Small wonder that churches themselves avoid talking about the hard messages inherent in the Gospel since it goes against not only the pastor’s, but also the congregation’s personal programming to avoid the topic and as an institution it does not want to scare off or offend the faithful.
Jesus suffered a similar dilemma with his flock in John 6:52-66: “When many of his disciples heard it, they said, ‘This teaching is difficult; who can accept it’?” The narrative in this pericope may be about Jewish taboos around flesh and blood, but the meta-narrative is about death, not only a challenge to accept Jesus’ impending death as observers, but to go so far in the commitment as to symbolically ingest it. The idea of getting that close to death was repugnant to many of his followers and they left.
Despite our natural avoidance of dying and death, they are topics that must be engaged. Faith in this context acts as a relief valve, helping people with their individual eschatological questions rather than letting this pressure build and find outlets in destructive ways. Faith can provide the meaning for how death fits into their lives, but only if it is intelligible and connects their setting with the unchanging truths of the Gospel. Without this formation however, and especially in these days of complexity and fast decisions, it can be excruciatingly difficult and soul-rending for persons to deal with the issues of death lacking the proper context of faith as a meaningful backdrop.
Death in the Traditional Balance of Christian Formation
In his book Denial of the Soul, M. Scott Peck observes, “In the latter years of his life, Freud came to believe that almost everything about human behavior could ultimately be reduced to two opposing forces: Eros and Thanatos.”19 Expressing more than just love, eros is also the complete range of life-urges or, as Peck quotes Dylan Thomas, “The force that through the green fuse drives the flower.”20 Thanatos is the opposite side of that coin, not merely death, but all those self-defeating and injurious forces we struggle against. Within the great wisdom--or myth if you allow--of Christianity there echoes a similar dyad in the configuration of life and death. The two major seasons of our liturgical calendar are Advent (an anticipatory celebration of a beginning life) and Lent (an anticipatory marking of life’s end) that together constitute a narrative for framing and explaining the human condition and humanity’s relationship with God. For most of its existence, the wisdom of the Church has been to hold these two seminal realities (life versus death) together in an appreciative and complementary balance, rather than favoring one and neglecting the other.
There is a wonderful poem by T. S. Elliot, written in 1922, “The Journey of the Magi,” that captures this connectedness in the philosophical reminisces of one of the wise men that ends with this reflection:
All this was a long time ago, I remember,
And I would do it again, but set down -
This set down.
This: were we lead all that way for
Birth or Death? There was a Birth, certainly,
We had evidence and no doubt. I had seen birth and death
But had thought they were different; this Birth was
Hard and bitter agony for us, like Death, our death.
We returned to our places, these Kingdoms,
But no longer at ease here, in the old dispensation,
With an alien people clutching their gods.
I should be glad of another death.

Here the focus sharpens further as I believe that our societal expression of Christianity has somehow lost this balance and has been weakened by its neglect, or avoidance, of the thanatos element within its tradition. That such an avoidance could occur clandestinely is understandable because the Church exists within, and its membership is made up of, the surrounding culture. Thus, lacking sufficient vigilance or awareness, contemporary trends can bleed into Church thinking and practice if they are not noticed and intentionally responded to--akin to the moral narrative of a frog sitting passively in heating water.
In the larger arena, our fellow citizens, whether secular or not, spend nearly all of their energy, either innocently or without reflection, embracing eros with all of its desires and accumulation, while doing everything to avoid the kenosis and death embodied in thanatos. The avoidance extends so far as to resist talking about death or loss in polite society, or attempting to recast and exploit death as a form of entertainment. There are some exceptions, though out of the mainstream and only by a minority willing to engage in critical thinking. Here, there have been islands of activity in discussions around the issues of death such as how our culture denies or fears it, how to define it, how to handle it, how to grieve it. Even so, if the Church neglects to protect its traditional domain and provide counter-responsive ministry, it cannot expect the secular world to pick up the slack and attend to death in a meaningful way, or in the same way, as the theology of the Church had. The world is neither equipped nor interested in bringing God and religion into the equation and cannot find utility or sense in death, especially in our consumer-driven world, because death defeats continuing consumption.
Thus, there seems to be a parallel dynamic in the Western Church. Its focus and activities favors the realm of eros but with much less attention paid to thanatos, with the exception of naming the “culture of death” that weaves through popular culture. Yet if there is even a smidgeon of truth in Freud’s diagnosis that eros and thanatos are balancing counterweights in human behavior, should there not be more assertive pastoral engagement in addressing the issues of thanatos. Think to yourself, how much pastoral energy or thought is going into this second realm of human behavior? Even if one disagrees with the stark duality that Freud supposes, it would be rash to dismiss the concept entirely as we see, and others have documented, many examples of its truth personified in our news and in the people we meet. And yet if there is some truth in this concept, how is it that we have come to a place where our attention is focused almost exclusively on the eros and what cost do we incur as a community by neglecting the thanatos?
Perhaps another way to roughly characterize and gauge the imbalance is by way of a comparison of soul versus spirit, using my own nontraditional definitions. To clarify, I do not mean the specific entities so much as the qualitative expressions of a person and their personality, as two forms of lived spirituality. This is tricky semantic ground and I do not wish to get lost in theological technicalities here as there are many different ideas about what these are and how they function.21 Before I begin this short analysis let me state I am not arguing one aspect is superior or preferable to the other, but that both are needed in active expression in our lives.
In general it seems to me, from reading through various sources, that there is agreement that the two aspects of spirit and soul differ in distinction and feel. For instance, when one speaks of doing “soul-work,” there is an understood nuance of an earthiness and sobriety connected to the activity. My understanding of the difference in distinction is this: soul operates in the every day, is the earthy element of a person’s essence and also incorporates the sober regions of pain, loss and death. I think of St. John of the Cross as a representative. Soul’s movement and language is typically descendant. Soulwork takes into account human limitations.
In contrast, spirit is lofty, strives for the heavens, beyond-the-ordinary and the exhilarating. I think of Norman Vincent Peale as a representative. Spirit is often associated with the dynamic expressions and activity of a person, using the gifts and inspirations provided by God; thus our popular saying “That’s the spirit!” Spirit’s movement and language is typically ascendant. Spiritwork celebrates the human potential.
In this less-than-precise offering of the dyad-configuration of soul and spirit, a parallel dynamic to that of eros and thanatos emerges. Again, a healthy posture contains a balanced participation of both spirit and soul in one’s life, but it is believable (and I feel empirical) that we have favored the spirit in our modern religion and society to the negligence of soul. Thomas Moore, strikingly, begins his book Care of the Soul, “The great malady of the twentieth century, implicated in all of our troubles and affecting us individually and socially is ‘loss of soul’.”22 It would seem that he also finds an imbalance in contemporary life, though his definition of soul is somewhat different. Spiritwork is what we want whereas soulwork is what we need, yet for a balanced life of faith, both must be present.
Rolheiser speaks of two “functions” of the soul that must be kept in balance. One function is to imbue our life with energy, and so has a principle of “chaos” to it, while the other function is to keep our lives integrated, having a principle of “order.” “In a manner of speaking, the soul has a principle of chaos and a principle of order within it and its health depends upon giving each its due.”23 There are undoubtably many ways to characterize this kind of dyad and I do not mean to equate the preceding three as completely interchangeable. For my purposes I will use the language of soulwork versus spiritwork for the remainder of this paper.
It would be easy to dismiss the imbalance in emphasis between soul and spirit as an interesting but mostly irrelevant feature of the modern age, with no real consequences. I argue otherwise and have considered a number of examples of true import and lessons to us all. One of the earliest biblical narratives, that of the tower of Babel, speaks about man’s arrogance and presumption in relation to God (“let us make a name for ourselves,” Gen. 11:4), but it is also an expression of spirit unrestrained by soul. The people in this story are impressed and proud of their abilities and so use them to literally attempt to ascend to God’s level through their own handiwork.
For our own era, a stark recurrence of this lesson can be seen in the ascendancy and fall, with tragic consequences for everybody, of Nazi Germany. The Germans of the 1930's, who had suffered defeat and humiliation for years, found their spirit in their increasing technological and organizational abilities they are so well-known for. They were not crazy or bad to applaud this spirit and their newfound capabilities, especially in light of their hunger for something other than failure. Unfortunately, they were so hungry for success that they missed the miasma hidden in the imbalance of spirit versus soul; in the lack of respect for thanatos. That imbalance turned a potentially healthy expression of spirit into a monster of pride and death unrestrained by the expression of soul. Certainly Adolf Hitler was the focal point and manipulator of this dynamic, but the people of this society co-opted in this dynamic to deadly ends.
It is also worth noting that this happened in a nation as educated, creative and Christian as Germany is, perhaps acting as a lesson on the weakness of nominal Christianity. I think it is no coincidence that the best known of their religious critics was Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who is legendary for his gritty and challenging work that speaks of attending to the soul. In his book The Cost of Discipleship, he points out a stark corrective path that draws on the soul, “When Christ calls a man, he bids him come and die.”24 Of course the Nazi regime instinctively knew the threat this re-balancing would be to their project and so had to eliminate his influence by imprisonment and eventually hanging.
Because of sin, an integral part of the human condition, we are all at threat of repeating this kind of story when we let, or choose to have, spirit overshadow soul. The imbalance is not benign, especially not in today’s nuclear-capable world. It is exceedingly ironic that to save this world, to save our existence and lives and souls, we must deliberately walk the path of the grave. If one believes in the central lesson of the Christian narrative however, that is the only conclusion one can reach.
Doing soulwork means bringing in the self-reflective and penitential strains of spirituality, those movements that human nature tends to avoid when possible. Perhaps the following quote best captures the mechanism whereby doing soulwork keeps self-destructive impulses in check.
Thoughts that dwell on the individual’s past infidelities toward a loving God
effect a movement away from self-love to a passionate love of God. This leads
to the existential awareness of man’s own weakness and propensity toward evil,
and hence to the consideration of the possibility of an eternity separated from
God.25

For this mechanism to work, a person must have the humility and awareness to know God as greater, and more real, than themselves. Soul keeps the ultimate pointer of love redirected toward God, the beloved focus of faith, balancing the temptation of unchecked-spirit to twist the pointer in the direction of one’s self.
But the work of soul, as the path through kenosis, is a hard sell in today’s culture. Not only because we are so used to the successes and luxuries of modern living, but also because this avoidance has always been a part of human nature. It is true that there are hardships and losses in everyone’s life, even the most comfortable of us, but these may occur as accidental events. What is different about the soulwork I am speaking of is this is the intentional practice of a discipline that fits into an understanding of what it means to deliberately take up one’s cross. Supporting this practice is a theology and a sense of meaning, and the work that leads the person through spiritual growth and salvation as Jesus promised. Outside the context of faith, the language of descent is scarcely intelligible to a normally striving human being.
We have a scriptural example of the clash between basic human nature and this
hard message of the way of Christ. I see this as the reason Jesus makes his statement about foxes and birds having their homes but the Son of man with nowhere to lay his head (Matt. 8:20, Luke 9:58). This quotation occurs in the context of great crowds beginning to collect around him and naturally some believe he will lead them to seeing a triumphal, ascendant course in his ministry--the path of the spirit. The traditional Jewish concept of Messiah was of the person who would re-establish the Davidic dynasty. Jesus counters instead with this statement so that they know his path is not one of worldly glory, dominion and ascendancy. He discourages their labeling him as Messiah. Instead, his way is one of suffering and rejection--death--it is a story of descent and submission quite unlike the path they had in mind. This is the path of the soul.
The lesson here is that even in Jesus’ time, we have an example of human nature desiring the ascent of spirit and hoping to avoid the descent of soul. As this example shows, faith can be defined as many things, but it is not necessarily the faith that God understands, especially when grounded solely in human objectives. We have to look to Jesus Christ for his instruction of what faith all encompasses (from the point of view of God) and we do not have the luxury of picking and choosing among the parts. Faith is a package deal; all parts must be operative in order for it to be coherent and life-giving as intended by God.
While there are other aspects of this imbalance, my intent is simply to look at this dynamic in terms of how it manifests today in relation to preparing for dying and death. Yet as a last word, Becker observes that the ability to hold both spirit and soul in balanced concert is no easy task, one he judges as “loaded with ambiguity impossible to resolve.” So Becker poses this question, “How does one lean on God and give over everything to Him and still stand on his own feet as a passionate human being?”26 The premise I will follow is that the seeds of the answer lie in following “the way” as mapped out by Jesus Christ. Following this way holds tremendous challenge and promise together in a paradoxical fashion, like a unmapped path that can only be understood in its course by a commitment to walk it.
The Prophetic Role of the Church
I see an urgent need for the Church to provide the support and meaning that people require in facing their mortality, and this work is a legitimate concern of pastoral ministry. “We have today few specialists of the soul to advise us when we succumb to moods and emotional pain, or when as a nation we find ourselves confronting a host of evils.”27 There has been theological activity around this topic but it has not resulted in many tools directly applicable to the average person struggling with mortality. Monica Hellwig maps out the center of this need.
What has been written about individual eschatology in the last several decades
has been very cautious about trying to decipher the symbols of hope. That has
left one area of concern–that is, the consideration of death itself and of the
process of dying. . . . The basic question, as all these authors see it, is how we
are to make sense of life in the face of death and what the Gospel of Jesus as the
Christ tells us about death and about the meaning of human life in face of
death.28

Perhaps, because of the immediacy and power of the Gospel message in their day, the martyrs we revere from the early Church had a better sense of loss and death as meaningful components of life and not something to be avoided at all costs. Today, though we might still revere the martyrs, it is very difficult for us to truly identify with their thinking and perspective, given the huge differences in our formative experiences and understanding. Few of us have the balanced formation necessary to faithfully walk in their shoes. It seems some of the early Christians, such as Perpetua, were able to call upon this resource to embrace the ideal mind of St. Paul. She was put to death in a North African Roman coliseum in 203 C.E., not a theologian or a Church leader, but a young mother with a family who was able to make sense of her fate and mark it down in writing for future generations to read--a testimony of her faith in God through Jesus Christ.
The martyrs’ sober embrace of death illustrates one of the traditional strengths of Christianity, a strength not to be found elsewhere since it is so counter-cultural and seemingly counter-intuitive. It makes sense that this wisdom of the Church would be disdained by popular society. We were warned by Christ that the more the Church modeled popular society, rather than standing on its own belief and perspective, the more compromised it would become. The Church had to stick to its beliefs, no matter how counter-cultural or discordant it is with the “world”. If our contemporary Church underplays the soulwork component in formation for its people, they are disarmed for one of the most significant event in their lives, one event that the world only makes worse in its complexity and secularity. People die without the empowering that religion could give them to face death from a faithful and meaning-filled stance. As a result, suffering and spiritual distress are common companions at the deathbed.
Yet to begin talking about the difficult work necessary for a vibrant and balanced spirituality, Moltmann says the Church will put itself at odds with popular culture and the consumer society. “To fit itself for this task, Christianity must abandon particular environmental forms–those that the Church has assumed because its adherents are also citizens in a particular society. . . . Christianity must become the salt of the earth, a fiery salt in the wounds of the earth.”29 Becker also warns of the sociological problem this prophetic role creates in displacing other ideologies.
And the crisis of society is, of course, the crisis of organized religion too:
religion is no longer valid as a hero system, and so the youth scorn it. If
traditional culture is discredited as heroics, then the church that supports that
culture automatically discredits itself. If the church on the other hand, chooses
to insist on its own special heroics, it might find that in crucial ways it must
work against the culture to recruit youth to be anti-heroes to the ways of life of
the society they live in. This is the dilemma of religion in our time.30

There may be opportunities to learn from others how to do this successfully in the modern world. Pope John Paul II had said that the Church needed to learn how to breathe with two lungs, referring to the Western and Eastern bodies. What strikes me about his statement is with respect to the tradition of pathos in the Eastern Orthodox practices, a strong element of the soulwork that I have been attempting to describe. Perhaps his call was a prophetic expression of the need for more balance of soul and spirit. The qualitative difference of the two spheres of Christianity is characterized by Father Richard Rohr as the appreciation of “big mind” in the Eastern Church, versus the “small mind” of its Western counterpart. Rohr says, “Big mind sees the whole, a panoramic awareness; . . . Small mind wants to explain and analyze.”31 A part of the difference I infer here is the inclusion of the affective and sensual that is integrated into the paradigm of big mind, whereas small mind focuses on the intellectual and analytical.
Father George Maloney has written a book that introduces Eastern Christian spirituality of the fourth to eighth centuries. One of his chapters is entitled “Weep: There is No Other Way!” in which he explains the central part that compunction (the weeping for one’s sins) plays in Eastern spirituality. He quotes a fourth century Abbot Poemen:
One of the brethren asked Abba Poemen, saying, “Father, what shall I do in the
matter of my sins?” The old man said: “Whoever wishes to blot out his offenses
can do so by means of weeping; for weeping is the path which the Scriptures
have taught us, and the Fathers have also wept continually, and there is no other
path except that of tears.”32

The emotive role of spirituality is a concept that has little familiarity in the arena of Western Christianity, but this example displays how there may be value in exploring the late Pope’s lead in this direction. Likewise, there may be lessons to be learned in other quarters, such as in the conversation with the Jewish faith and re-evangelization of Europe that Pope Benedict XVI has called for.
Another problem is being able to show people the value of the “narrow gate,” the hard work of attending to the soul in a world that rejects this notion (Matt 7:13-14). Practitioners of Christianity have to understand that soulwork is a pathway to something greater, that one does not stay in this place of suffering. The passage through the desert is not endless, but leads elsewhere. Fr. Maloney makes this point, “per crucem, ad lucem (through the cross, to light). Compunction was the dying process and joy was the resurrection of all of one’s powers into a new life that produced a hundredfold in peace and joy.”33 This message needs to be made intelligible to the average believer, so that it explains why it remains a part of the way. A strikingly parallel explanation was penned by Anne Lindbergh, some 60 years after her firstborn son had been kidnapped and murdered.
What I am saying is not simply the old Puritan truism that “suffering
teaches.” I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught,
all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added
mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness, and the willingness to
remain vulnerable. All these and other factors combined, if the circumstances
are right, can teach and can lead to rebirth.34

There has to be something more in the Church’s response to death than just administration of anointing in the last hours of someone’s life. Some form of outreach and formation that recovers and instructs about kenosis (and about the meaning of death in life, that gets people to practice their soulwork, that forms supportive community) is needed. These measures are needed because we live in a changing and complex world that works at odds to these notions, and because we have a larger population which are stranded from community and meaning and are disconnected from their spiritual resources.
This is not a call for the Church to walk away from joy onto a morbid journey,
but a call for balance. The Gospels are still the “Good News” and not the “Dire Warnings.” I respect St. Paul’s call to not quench the Spirit (1 Thess. 5:19). This call is not so much turning down the volume on the joyous, hopeful and uplifting strains of our faith as it is turning up the volume on the sacrificial, penitential and soulful ones. I suspect that by attending to the difficult and sadder elements of our theology, we will be able to better appreciate and celebrate the happier elements. Rohr quotes Oscar Wilde on the necessity of having the affective qualities also engaged in our faith, to embrace both pain and joy. “Oscar Wilde put it perfectly: ‘Only the senses can cure the soul and only the soul can cure the senses’.”35
The bulk of the work of re-introducing the concept and practice of kenosis and soulwork must occur in the Church, as a thematic inclusion in the discussion of faith. It cannot wait until churchgoers find themselves in a medical crisis, nor at their life’s end for reasons discussed in the next chapter.

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CHAPTER 3. TAKING STOCK


Changes Today
In the first chapter, I spoke of a poverty of pastoral resources in preparation for death, a poverty of meaning, faith community and hope. I mentioned my belief that how we address this will impact the shape, direction and relevancy of Christianity in the near future. Even if this is too dramatic, circumstances will force some type of change. For a brief span of time, in post-agrarian American society when family members no longer died at home, we have been able to keep the death of those that matter most to us at arms length and mostly out of sight. In so doing we have hit upon a temporary fix to the inner tensions Becker described around dealing with our own mortality. Yet this fix carries a cost and will be unsustainable in the future.
Less than a half century from now, our replacements will have more than doubled in
numbers. It is hard to see how we can continue to keep the secret, with such
multitudes doing the dying. We will have to give up the notion that death is
catastrophe, or detestable, or avoidable, or even strange. We will need to learn more
about the cycling of life in the rest of the system and about our connection to the
process.36

This is just one trend occurring, but there are many others ongoing that has radically changed our existence, and how we understand and respond to it. Part of the learning must include a faith perspective that is in step with the changing landscape and responsive to the shifting needs of believers. There are many reasons why the current nature of our



dying is different compared to that of our predecessors and some of the high points will be
discussed next. Underlying all this change, I see three general themes weaving through these issues involving potential threats to the personal integrity and spirit of the human person. By this I mean that current trends work against traditional bonds of community, rob pivotal life-events of their meaning, and act corrosively against hope.
Ronald Rolheiser characterizes our age as one of narcissism, pragmatism and unbridled restlessness, all of which distances us from our God and clouds our awareness; he specifically warns that these work against our ability to be contemplative. Rolheiser relates that Thomas Merton was asked what the leading spiritual disease of our time was and he pointed to efficiency, “What Merton is pointing out here is that, regarding God and religion, our problem is not so much badness as it is busyness.”37 This is not only important, but ironic given that the dynamics of modern medicine and surging healthcare costs are driving efficiency to the top of the priority list.
In the highly specialized, technological and business model of American hospitals, events are strictly driven by chronos (clock time) with no sense or appreciation at all for kairos (fullness of time, or the right time). Yet spirituality breathes in the realm of kairos, not chronos. It has become a fact that the last few hours of a person’s life are often distressingly busy, not only for them but for their attending family too. Because the patient in this efficient system can be demoted to a clinical status, and is often in compromised states of consciousness and communication, it is tempting to assume the busyness has no impact upon them, but we have no way of really knowing that. For these reasons, and others, hospitals are usually poor venues for addressing spiritual needs of the actively dying other than emergency and sacramental care. This is significant because most of us now die in medical facilities, a large percentage being in hospitals, though there is a bright spot in the growing role of hospices which are more amenable to extended spiritual care.
The main point of this section is that we live and die differently today. A poem by Joan Neet George brilliantly captures the sense of the marginalization that modernity has brought upon the three themes I mentioned earlier.38





Grandmother,
When Your Child Died

Grandmother, when your child died
hot beside you
in your narrow bed,
his labored breathing kept
you restless
and woke you when
it sighed,
and stopped.

You held him through the bitter dawn
and in the morning
dressed him, combed his hair,
your tears welled, but you didn’t weep
until at last he lay
among the wild iris in the sod,
his soul gone inexplicably to God. Amen.








But grandmother, when my child died
sweet Jesus, he died hard.
A motor beside
his sterile cot
groaned, and hissed, and whirred
while he sang his pain-
low notes and high notes
in slow measures
slipping through the drug-cloud.
My tears, redundant,
dropped slow
like glucose or blood
from a bottle.
And when he died
my eyes were dry
and gods wearing white coats
turned away.






A Survey of Our Current Situation: What is our Sitz im Leben?
In the field of Biblical Criticism, scholars have found that insight into the social context in which scriptures were written is an important tool for a more complete understanding. In a similar way, I propose here to consider what the Sitz im Leben is for persons in the twenty-first century USA, narrowed to a selected set of issues impacting how we die. A brief sketch in this manner will show the unique position we find ourselves in and support my contention that our situation is problematic with respect to the themes of faith community, meaning and hope.
Our Demographics
At the end of 2005, the National Center for Health Statistics reported that the average US life expectancy in 2003 hit a new high of 77.6 years.39 Taking the long view, this is an amazing statistic in regard to the experience of our predecessors. “It is estimated that the average life expectancy was perhaps 20 in ancient Greece, 22 in Rome, 33 in England during the Middle Ages, and around 35 during the early colonization of North America.”40 Even at the beginning of the 1900's, the average was only about 47 years in North America. An attendee at last December’s fifth White House Conference on Aging asked, “What is it going to mean when our whole population in this country looks like Florida does now-when you have 20% of the people being 65 and older?”41 One can only guess at how these additional 30 to 40 years of life have affected the faith understanding and practice of contemporary Christians, but there are some definable consequences otherwise.
The major causes of death have shifted from infectious diseases to chronic degenerative illnesses. The top two causes in 1900 of influenza and tuberculosis have been replaced by heart conditions and cancer at the end of the century. Not only do we die older, but our deaths are generally after longer periods of deterioration and with chronic complications, thus more expensive. It has also become more common that the circle of familiar friends and family of that same generation for a dying elder have already died, or are absent because of their own medical conditions. Because chronic and complicated illnesses are involved, these people usually end up in facilities other than in their own homes. “80 percent of the 2.2 million people who die in this country each year die in institutions.”42 This is a reversal of the situation at the beginning of the twentieth century when at least 80 percent of deaths were at home.43 Because dying has become a longer process, with attendant complexities coupled with this age of inflationary healthcare costs, the financial resources of the person, and sometimes their families, can be stretched to the breaking point.
The structure and operation of the American family has also changed significantly since the early 1900's. According to the Census Bureau’s online data, the most common household of seven or more people in 1900 has shrunk to 2 people by 2000, and the relative proportion of large families has dropped significantly.44 Single-person households are now becoming an increasing trend. According to an Associated Press article, based on the 2000 census, 27.2 million Americans lived alone, making up 26 percent of all households while the traditional married couple with their natural children were only 22 percent of all households.45 A temporary trend is that more of today’s elderly are relatively affluent with personal savings, pensions and the support of social security, so they are more likely to live alone than within their children’s families and often in separate parts of the country. However, the generations following them are facing much bleaker prospects in these economic resources and cost of healthcare. In terms of stability, and while it may be only a temporary trend, families are much more nomadic today, moving more often for their careers in a workplace driven more by global economics.
These are all factors which make it harder for people to form large, stable networks of long term community. Instead, the circle of family and friends one has is generally smaller and often these people are separated by some geographical distance. It is a rarity for families living in a neighborhood to have the experience of those from simpler times--to have known each other all their lives and been long connected within one local faith community. The ideal fraternity of strong bonds of community and worship has diminished so that when trouble erupts, and the crisis is looming, many persons find they have few others they can look to for help.
More and more today the scenario for an elderly person who has begun the decline into a chronic degenerative illness is this: one of their family members will travel there to take care of emergency issues and then follow up getting them admitted into some form of assisted living facility. Visits by family and friends become infrequent and spotty, depending upon the convenience and timing the support persons are experiencing. The elder’s compromised health means loss of regular, or all, contact with their faith community for the last few months. The illness progresses to an acute stage whereby they require being moved to an acute care facility, usually in a hospital. This phase may have several bouts of moving back and forth from acute care to long-term care, taxing the time and resources of their family. Because of medical expenses, there is an added layer of grief, fear and guilt since the patient worries about being a burden and the family anguishes over the choices of procedures and payments; it is rare that they will discuss these openly among themselves. Eventually, one last move into the acute care facility occurs as the person exhausts their reserves of will and energy, dying in the hospital; or hospice if the physicians have taken the notice and initiative for this option. Thus the often-stated wish for being able to die at home, quickly and without pain while surrounded by loved ones, is usually frustrated. Apart from the hospice setting, and only when it operates ideally, the trends are all moving in the opposite direction.
Our Healthcare
The breadth and scope of changes in medical technology and healthcare systems has been enormous in the last century and show no sign of slowing down. I have selected only a few of the issues in this topic; those that seem most unique to our age, problematic where dying and death are concerned and best illustrate the challenge to keeping a voice of faith in the medical process.
One could characterize this era of healthcare as a struggle between the themes of healing versus curing. While this thematic tension directly affects the recipients of care and their families, it is the clinical personnel (and especially our physicians) who are on the front-lines of this battle. At this point, the influences of economics and efficiency has shifted the priority to curing. The physician, Dr. Eric Cassell, says these tensions and the associated repercussions are a new phenomenon, “entirely creatures of current medical science, i.e., they were not possible even a few decades ago.”46 This rapid shift is especially troubling since medicine also has only recently obtained the ability to keep people marginally alive, only in a physiological sense, not necessarily a functional or cognitive sense, “we have seen how modern science can create a living body shell whose self is gone.”47 The problem here is medical science can use these newfound abilities in this period of evolving priorities, from healing to curing, without the aid of precedent or perspective to fully understand all of the possible implications.
It may be that this dynamic of uncertainty is the main force behind the rise of assisted-suicide and euthanasia in the United States. M. Scott Peck was motivated by the concern that these options will become codified in the near future (and then forgotten as an issue) to write his book on this topic Denial of the Soul. In his opinion, they are symptoms of “the spotty, unpredictable quality of medical care” and the “rampant secularism” in our country. His text speaks about the despair created by this climate of rapid change in medicine (and belief) that forces people to take desperate measures. “Given the impotence–the lack of control–attendant upon such unpredictability, it is no wonder to me that many would want the power of management offered by the right to physician-assisted suicide.”48 I would recommend this text as a good overview of the current state of affairs in U.S. healthcare.
The Self Experienced as Patient
Over the eight years of my experience in providing pastoral support to persons in hospitals, hospices and convalescent care wards, I have been graced to hear some of the fears (and hopes, too) expressed by people facing death. Everybody is a little different, and their journeys and experiences vary, but there is some pattern to the expressions. What is most often voiced is the desire to die quickly, not to linger and suffer and with somebody present who cares. Prayer is sometimes wanted too, but the need for physical accompaniment and acknowledgment of them as a valued self seems crucial. When they express fear of death, it most often comes in the fear of dis-solution, not only of the self no longer existing, but all the characteristics, abilities, events that fit together into who they are and the reasons for their life dissolving into meaninglessness.
It is not without some irony, therefore, that the medical system adds to the experience of dis-solution in how it operates, “the very mechanics of reason on which physicians have depended for generations . . . may lead away from an understanding of dying.”49 This is because modern science, and thus Western medicine, works by breaking systems down intellectually into component parts. Clinical staff have been trained in this analytical thinking method (which Cassell says is necessarily reductionist, particular, atomist) but by its very nature it works against the existential needs and fears of the patient. “One cannot arrive at human values by analytic thought.”50 No doubt the staff, who are caring humans, experiences the tension between identifying with the patient as a person versus a constellation of medical problems and treatments. Even so, their training toward the analytic cannot help but be communicated by words and action to the patient, who has unintentionally been demoted in status to their condition. It is not uncommon to overhear some person described as “the lymphoma in room 3" or something similar.
Synthesis of the person into an integrated whole is one of the traditional functions of healthy religion, but unless there is some intentional movement to bring this to the patient, it usually goes missing. Even with the intention, modern “progress” toward efficiency has made this problematic. The pace and flow within a modern hospital make it difficult for a minister to connect with the patient for any length of time, especially uninterrupted time, unless they have the rare freedom of an open schedule. Often patients become lost in the system, perhaps so compromised and with no other person present to advocate for them that their spiritual needs go wanting. The staff is too driven by the system to fill in these gaps. “Not only do religion and philosophy seem distant from the bedside but their questions seem tangential in terms of modern physicians and what actually goes on.”51 If the patient only speaks and understands a language other than English, these problems are then multiplied. If anyone wants to know the sense of isolation and of being lost in the system that patients feel, all they need to do is read Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ book On Death and Dying.
Complexity in the Definition of Death
There have been remarkable changes not only in the technology and procedures in medicine, but also in how we talk and think about them. To take just one example, the whole construct around defining death, and thus the associated repercussions, is a complex that has been built up only in the last 40 years. For most of historical time, there was not even an official technical definition of death since the sciences as we know them did not begin to be developed until the late Middle Ages. Since then, until recently, death was usually characterized by the cessation of breathing or the function of the heart. However, as medical abilities progressed to the point of successfully sustaining these functions artificially, this definition of death sometimes became problematic and it was not until 1968 that an official body, an ad hoc committee of the Harvard Medical School, broached the idea to cast a new definition of death based upon brain function, although this first venture referred to irreversible coma as a new criterion. After this, diagnostic criteria for death in this new paradigm were studied and improved upon by a number of medical entities and was formally codified in what was termed the UK code by the Conference of Royal Colleges and Faculties of the United Kingdom in 1976. In the United States, the President’s Commission for the Study of Ethical Problems in Medicine drew upon the UK code for its “Guidelines for the Determination of Death” in 1981 which accepted brain death as a legitimate diagnosis. It detailed specific criteria to make such a diagnosis and prevent other medical conditions to be mistaken for brain death and has been used as the basis for all states in their subsequent brain death legislation.52
At the same time that this edifice of medical determinations and diagnostic procedures for brain death was developing, respective bodies of work were being created in law and medical ethics as well as an evolution in the field of organ and tissue donation. Thus, clinical practices around death that did not even exist as recently as the mid-1900's had germinated and grown into significant structures in the span of a few decades. It has not only changed medicine, but arguably society’s attitude as well. It has touched everyone by its addition to conversations and ideas in popular culture, as exhibited most recently in the highly publicized polemics around Terri Schiavo.53
The point here is not in the details of the technical or legal intricacies around the definition of a person’s death, but that these intricacies have newly become part of the landscape. They are arguably the best evidence that there are new players and influencing forces, such as lawyers and insurance companies, in a field where heretofore none had ever existed previously or, if they did, in much simpler forms. They are markers as to the increasing complexity of an event (death) that used to be a natural, organic process at life’s end, where medical practitioners and loved ones could largely act only as observers and companions in an otherwise unstoppable process. An educational guide by The Catholic Health Association witnesses to the following:
More than 80 percent of the 2.2 million people who die in this country each year die in
institutions, . . . All too often the final experiences of dying patients are crowded by
procedures, personnel, and machinery that are disorienting, intrusive, and largely
unnecessary.54

Medical Systems as a Commercial Industry in the United States
Our country has been coursing a significant shift in the nature and soul of our entire healthcare system. As an analogy, the main change parallels the quoted admonition by Nixon’s Secretary of Agriculture, Earl Butz, in the 1970's to participants of US agriculture, “Get big or get out!” This trajectory has been unrelenting and apparently inextricable and we have had our version of prophetic voices--voices which are true to form in how they make us uncomfortable--along the way. Daniel Berrigan proffers this snapshot from the year of 1980:
How marred our hopes are! Things which should be available to all inevitably cost
a great deal. . . . Hospitals have fared less well, for a multitude of reasons. The cost of
medical care, as is no news to anyone, has soared out of sight. Nineteenth-century
orders of women, founded to do basic medical work among the immigrants and poor,
have withered before the blight of the buck. Either the (male) diocesan chanceries have
grabbed the facilities and “integrated” them into church-state hyphens, or the sisters
have given in, done the same sad thing on their own. In either case, the mirage of
bigger and better has won over the solid reality of small and beautiful. By now the
Catholic hospitals, in any given town, including New York, are a crawling sprawl, big
and getting bigger, pledged to roughly the same medical practices, abortion excepted,
as their secular counterparts. In the process, original intentions have all but vanished.
Where nuns are present in the typical hospital, they are more apt to be commandeering
switchboards or accounts offices than nursing the sick and dying. The services are
secularized, with all the ambiguity that implies; so, it goes without saying, are the
finances. The poor receive the kind of health care which the state allow or disallows,
another function of that bulldozing of existence euphemistically, and despite all
malpractice, named “welfare.”55

Berrigan also points out that this change has been heralded by popular culture as a model of success, which misses or overlooks the deleterious effects upon personal dignity and meaning in an attitude he characterizes as, “the American farce of size, quantity, media puffing.” He then drives his point painfully home. “You don’t have to be poor in America to die badly. You just have to be dying; the rest is supplied”56
I do not offer Berrigan’s characterization as a call to reverse this course, to perform the impossible feat of re-establishing hospitals owned and operated by religious sisters but as a benchmark and vivid reminder of where we have been and where our contemporary prophet points to we are going. He makes this comparison from the halcyon year of 1980, a striking point for reflection when one considers the trajectory our society has traveled in 25 years.
Nor is this offered in order to browbeat the medical industry and cast them as scapegoats in the process, because there are many examples of good and creative improvements that have come along this same period. The establishment and growth of palliative care and hospice are examples of advancement and hope for the chronically ill, dying and their families. There has been significant improvement in planning and defining death for the chronically ill and easing their pain through clinical techniques.
Nevertheless, there is value is taking a hard look at the situation in the medical system and taking an honest, uncomfortable accounting of the impact its structure and operation has upon the average person. It is fair to say that even for capable persons with sufficient resources the journey through a medical experience, especially one culminating in the agony of a death, is complex, confusing, anxiety-producing and expensive. With that admission in hand, more telling is to measure this experience against one of the oldest and most solid measures of justice in Christianity (Isa.1:17, Jer.22:3, Matt 25:40). That is, gauging by the experience from the vantage of our most vulnerable--that is by the poor; the alien who struggles to communicate in our culture of rapid-fire English and efficiency; the elderly and mentally-diminished (no longer just the vulnerable widow); the solitary person who no longer has available family or friends to act as advocates or guardians and persons lacking economic access to medical care. What are their experiences within one of our hospitals or nursing homes and especially when they are dying? As a critique, how are we doing by the experiences of our most vulnerable as they die today? Can our systems (and ourselves by association) stand up to an objective scrutiny?
The Mission of Healing
Our country is undergoing a slow shift from non-profit healthcare structures to a for-profit system. Insurance and other financial bodies have a greater say in the treatment regimen. With a diminishing amount of Church-owned medical facilities there is a somewhat corresponding loss of spiritual support in the system, though there is still some appreciation left for the involvement of faith as a resource. This is especially ironic given the depth of historical involvement of Christianity in matters of health and healing.
From the start, Jesus’ ministry had healing as an important factor in the Gospels. Raymond Brown says that the tradition of his healing activity “is as old as the tradition of his words and must be taken seriously in any historical discussion.”57 Another author presents evidence that the burgeoning Christian Church saw health ministry as part of the mandate by Christ for evangelization (see Mark 16:18 or Acts 3:16). Hector Avalos, whose premise in his book is that New Testament historical scholars have understated the prominence of health matters in Church activities, goes so far as to make this statement, “Christianity may be seen as a Jewish sect that had, as one primary goal, the reformation of the health care system enunciated by the forms of Judaism that held Leviticus to be normative.”58 He therefore holds that one reason Christianity was successful in attracting members was that it restructured, thereby opening, access to healers as a part of its new understanding of fulfillment of the kingdom taught by Jesus Christ. “The distinctive aspects of Christian health care may be seen when we compare it with the health care systems offered by other Greco-Roman religious and secular traditions as well as the health care system evinced in Leviticus.”59
In the later centuries are the monastic traditions, particularly Benedictine, of providing herbal medicines and infirmaries up to and through the Middle Ages in Europe and women religious orders establishing nursing care and hospitals on their own initiative. This tradition carried to the new continent of North America where the backbone of our hospital system was built by Catholic sisters.60 The decline of this tradition is a very new development when considered against this historical backdrop.
The transition of healthcare from Christian to secular hands would be incidental if it only involved issues of efficacy and outcomes. However, Raymond Brown also illumines the component of meaning, as in mission, that is also a part of this history. For he points out that Jesus’ extraordinary deeds carried significance above and beyond the immediate problem-solving. “The miracle was not primarily an external proof of the coming of the kingdom (i.e., the fact that Jesus worked miracles proved that the kingdom had come), but one of the means by which the kingdom came.61 In other words, in Christian sensibility, healthcare carries an eschatological function--at least in its roots--a belief in and an expression of the fruition of the kingdom so central in Christ’s message. In distinction then, Christian healthcare owns a layer of meaning and hope which is missing in the secular realm. This aspect of mission is uniquely Christian; Brown points out that no other prophet or historical figure imbues this meaning into their healing activity. “Jesus connects them with the coming of the kingdom, a definitive eschatological context absent from the prophetic miracles.”62 However, in this pragmatic and factual age, we are prone to only consider the medical issues and overlook this other layer of meaning. In this myopia we are probably in good company with the people in Jesus’ society who were impressed by the immediate results but mostly clueless about the deeper significance. Because this awareness is vanishing in our medical industry, the environment lacks the appreciation and supportive role of the eschatological meaning and hope found in the Gospels. At the top levels of the institutions where the mission is decided, efficiency and profit margins often have become the newer grounds for meaning.
Our Culture
The cloth of what makes up our culture is extensive, so I will pare the pertinent topics down to values, secularism, meaning and mythology. These are interrelated and interdependent so that it is impossible to isolate them cleanly. Again, the interest is how contemporary trends in these areas work against faith community, meaning and hope as they play out in our lives and deaths today. If asked to briefly characterize our American culture today, I would call it as chronically busy and distracted; our success in life paradoxically sows the seeds for our failure in dying.
Marty says that the difficulty with the richness of choices is that it has created “choppings up of existence,” that events and parts of our life happen in discrete episodes which lack meaningful connection. “There are no signs, symbols, or languages to communicate across the boundaries that separate world views create.”63 If anything, this reality makes it difficult to activate our faith as a way of living, the “living praxis” that Nolan preaches, since there are no consistent threads of meaning or practice running through all these discrete parts of our complete existence. Faith, in consequence, becomes a stuttered feature in the modern life.
The natural human response to this chopped-up reality is the yearning for integration. Marty borrows from sociology the phrase “wholeness-hunger,” and says that in a spiritual sense it applies to man’s yearning to be reunified with God, “that term may well summarize the ageless spiritual quest. Whether or not modernity changes the concept completely, there is now an evident intensifying of such hunger.”64

Values and Secularism
The idea that secularism lives large and influences the values we hold is not a new idea, and there is a wealth of material that addresses this issue; this much is obvious. What may not be so obvious is how this factor has impacted our dying and death and so, again, I will be selective in addressing this. Martin Marty makes the point that the modern reality will not change and the best response for Christian Churches is to be “specifically open” to secularity rather than rigidly oppositional. Despite our nation’s claim to relatively high percentages of membership in religions, mostly Christian, it has a strong characteristic of secularity that operates openly and robustly, “secularity is to moderns what Hellenism was to the Greeks; an envelope, a taken-for-granted aspect of reality.” Because of the human species innate need for durable meaning (as previously noted by Becker), the search for significance and spirituality will never extinguish. “Whole societies may be officially secular, but subculture and individuals within them are as occupied as ever with ultimate meanings and the signals of the sacred.”65
Idolatry becomes the central issue here, and perhaps this is where Hellwig’s catechetical response most needs to be engaged, since this comes down to the question of where we place our ultimate faith. The best indication of what we ultimately depend on can be seen in where we spend our time. To be fair, the actors of influence and their power in our lives are unlike any that previous societies have ever experienced. Father Richard Rohr has often made the point in his retreats of observing that 99 percent of all advertisers have lived in this last century. The message they play is unrelentingly all spirit and no soul. Without a strong counter-influence, we are all sitting ducks.
A way to think about this is that we all are in continual formation. While formation is normally thought of as an intentional and defined process for persons entering a religious profession, it occurs mostly unintentionally for the rest of us. It is a process of subliminal formation, that occurs below our notice and, to a limited extent, can be scripted by others whose objectives are different from ours and not necessarily in our interest. The majority of these voices today are focused on the immediate fix, compressing the existential domain from the transcendent realm of God to the limited world of humans. Without a practice and understanding of the soulwork required for spiritual balance, we can be effortlessly seduced to always seek comfort and, by association, to distress when pain or loss intrudes.
Moore talks about the off-kilter nature often found as an inherent, and accepted, part of what we call the normal modern life. He says that it encompasses such a level of “adjustment disorder” that he is tempted to create his own version of the DSMIII66, a standard diagnostic manual for mental disorders.
For example, I would want to include the diagnosis “psychological modernism,” an
uncritical acceptance of the values of the modern world. It includes blind faith in
technology, inordinate attachment to material gadgets and conveniences, uncritical
acceptance of the march of scientific progress, devotion to the electronic media, and a
life-style dictated by advertising.67

All living organisms are built inherently with the need to seek comfort and we are no different in this. What sets us apart from other species is that meaning is the strongest instinct in mature humans, not comfort or survival. Perhaps the Genesis story is not so farfetched, that the consequence of partaking of the tree of knowledge is surrendering our primary right to comfort and survival. The two are tied together so that the path to real meaning is through suffering and death. This is not a message you will ever hear from the secular voices.
The subliminal formation towards comfort and this temporal existence has consequences in the storm of a personal crisis because it lacks the depth of vision and understanding. Culturally, we have been changed in how we live and face crisis.
It begins to look as though modern man cannot find his heroism in everyday life any
more, as men did in traditional societies just by doing their daily duty of raising children,
working, and worshiping. . . . That is the price modern man pays for the eclipse of the
sacred tradition. When he dethroned the ideas of soul and God he was thrown back
hopelessly on his own resources, on himself and those few around him.68

But humanity’s resources are limited and not sufficient for the severity of crisis in the dying and death of a loved one, or of ourselves, especially if one accepts Becker’s theory of death’s subconscious power in the human species. Here it seems that Elizabeth Kubler-Ross comes to agreement with Becker and Hellwig in terms of the need for appropriate and active individual eschatology.
Paradoxical as it may sound, while society has contributed to our denial of death,
religion has lost many of its believers in a life after death, i.e., immortality, and thus has
decreased the denial of death in that respect. In terms of the patient, this has been a
poor exchange. While the religious denial, i.e., the belief in the meaning of suffering
here on earth and reward in heaven after death, has offered hope and purpose, the
denial of society has given neither hope nor purpose but has only increased our anxiety
and contributed to our destructiveness and aggressiveness–to kill in order to avoid the
reality and facing of our own death.69

Nominal Christianity also lacks the ability to fully inform and support people facing their ultimate demise. Yet many people have become so busy and distracted in their lives that the convenience (and misunderstanding of the Christian tradition) of redefining the role of their religion has meant that they are comfortable in identifying their faith as reduced to membership and doing correct acts. But faith divorced from the full message of Jesus Christ is hollow and endangers their soul by distancing God. “In his [contemporary analyst Philip Rieff] view, our generation has an ambivalent relationship toward God: God has disappeared but we still have his calling card. . . . Future generations, he asserts, will not even have his calling card.”70
Mythology and Meaning
Rollo May defines myth as, “A myth is a way of making sense in a senseless world. Myths are narrative patterns that give significance to our existence.”71 Myth in this sense bases its legitimacy not in facts, but in narrative and interpretative truths. This understanding is different from the popular notion of myth as fantasy. Perhaps it is because this age is so invested in equating factuality with truth that the word is used in a pejorative way; a myth is good for a tale, but not for making sense.
In an efficient society with no place for myth as a type of wisdom, two things happen. First, the myths themselves are discarded or force-fit into a way of understanding that will not hold together. This misunderstanding explains why the Bible itself is so problematic, either misinterpreted or rejected. Second, we lose the skills to craft and interpret our own intelligible myths and so cut ourselves off from a valuable way of knowing.
May identifies four functions of myths: They give us a sense of personal identity, make possible our sense of community, undergird our moral values and help us to deal with the inscrutable mystery of creation.72 With such basic and important meaning at stake, I believe that we cannot actually stop our myth making, but by denying it we push it back below our conscious awareness, and call it by other names.
Perhaps more accurately stated, today’s myths have become smaller and episodic, compressing down from the undivided realm of God into the chopped-up realms of our earthly existences. Rolheiser says:
The unconscious, and in many cases the conscious, mythology that moves people today
is that of success, of moving up the ladder, of being rich, of having a beautiful body, of
being well dressed, of having prestige, of luxuriating in material comfort, of achieving
optimally, but in comfort, everything that is potentially attainable within our limits.73

I have italicized the last three words because they strike me as the sticking point--and consequence--of this earthbound perspective. When myth has been scaled down to reside within our limits, the redeeming access to something greater has been cut off. Thus, so has the inherent meaning and significance of the transcendent been lost. One could say that the narrowing down of mythology this way, or the jettisoning of meaning that connects us with something more powerful than ourselves, can be termed as a lack, or loss, of reverence.
It is by this method that our society is moving into an increasingly insecure and fractured future, at the very least in an existential sense. With the rise of enlightenment, mankind began to feel a self-assuredness in human abilities, looking to the advances in science and markets as signals that we could begin to solve all the problems on our own. In twentieth-century America, with post-World War II prosperity and significant technological advances, the notion of independent, secular self-determination really took off. In our confidence, we had (perhaps unknowingly) replaced God with the idols of money and self-reliance, though we continued to maintain our formal relations with the representing religions by going to a church on Sunday and identifying ourselves as a member of a religion. But in terms of where our operative loyalties and hopes really lie, that has shifted to a reliance on financial vehicles or upon our own powers of reasoning and ability. Thus the era of self-help books has arisen, which cooperates with the ideals of individualism. This mythology worships the superiority of relying on one’s own self rather than the messier option of a communal response or the vulnerability of trusting God. We could almost anticipate the publication of a text entitled Dying Well for Dummies. May provides a measure from his field of psychiatry, “But especially in America the narcissistic personality has become the dominant type of patient in the decades since the 1960s.”74
This fractured and incomplete mythology is sustainable only while things move along smoothly, more or less as planned. Yet life never operates that way for very long and the whole edifice comes crashing down when its strength is tested. Without a comprehensive or planned structure for nurturing--and instructing--the soul of believers, a vacuum naturally arises out of the need. Thomas Moore states, “The soul, for example, needs an articulated worldview, a carefully worked out scheme of values, and a sense of relatedness to the whole. It needs a myth of immortality and an attitude toward death.”75 Lacking this sort of structure, it is understandable how competing influences can so readily fill the vacuum with their own mythologies. Without a framework of meaning supplied by religion, the entertainment industry can readily offer the fantasy of death as amusement; a quick, clean termination of a usually-anonymous life with no sustaining consequences to deal with. Death becomes a caricature or commodity in the market of ideas and beliefs, fashioned according to the immediate goals of the marketer with little thought to the sustainability or intelligibility of the mythology it creates as measured against traditional beliefs.
Our Church
There are many books and articles published in the last few decades around a proposition amounting to the Roman Catholic Church being in crisis. While there is truth in this, I believe it is not principally in the way that our commercial media might have us believe. The American Catholic Church does face substantial challenges in dealing with the sex scandals, the shortage of religious vocations, various contests to its authority and the secularism of our culture, but the Church has always dealt with similar issues in the past. Rolheiser asserts, “Anger and hard theoretical questions about the church are not the biggest problem; indifference and a culture of individualism are.”76 Responding to these headline issues, and living in the complexity of the modern world, our Church suffers the malady of its culture--chronically busy and distracted.
Beyond the immediate turmoil, the real crisis I see is the Catholic Church safely and faithfully guiding its people through the transition from the Tridentine era to that of Vatican II. We have yet to complete this passage, in fact it would seem there is a long way to go. Theologians and historians have understood and commented on how unique and portentous this council was, not only in the diversity of voices but the importance in the shift of perspectives. Therefore, it would be naive to expect these changes to be implemented in short order. Rather, the Church is still coming to terms with the full meaning and fruition of Vatican II.
The guiding wisdom of this council was to shift the Church from the Tridentine model utilizing a classical methodology to one of historical consciousness methodology. Related to this change of methodology is the movement to shift from a high christology beginning with the divine person, to a low christology embracing the humanity of Jesus Christ. Yet, high christology has been the focus for most of Catholicism’s two millennia, and much of the theological structure has been constructed in that context. This shift in perspective will necessarily drive new understandings about the tradition and raise new questions. The fruition of these shifts will all take time.
Though Vatican II was the catalyst for beginning this change, the effects and understandings of this are yet to ripple throughout the Catholic world. Clerics educated in seminaries may understand the new directions and their implications of change, but the average Catholic does not. Most people identify this council by the observable changes to the liturgy and openness in tone, but the reasons behind them are unknown. This puts us in a sort of confusing middle ground, with part of the Church in the informed realm about Vatican II, and part of us straggling behind or still trying to hold on to the last remnants of the Tridentine era. One indication of this is the high frequency of Catholics in the hospitals requesting extreme unction and last rites for their loved ones, but having never accessed the sacrament of anointing before coming to the hospital.
The Second Vatican Council will eventually take us to a more balanced ecclesiology and theology. There will be better participation by all members, but until then it has left many in the Catholic world without a firm sense of tradition and they are confused, especially in the din of strong subliminal formation from the society. Adding to the difficulty, hopefully temporary, is the deficit of religious members who act as teachers and shepherds to counter this confusion. The laity do not sufficiently grasp the extent of this evolving vacuum, nor their role in this new understanding of Church, and either cannot or have not stepped in to fill the void.
Monica Hellwig notes that there has been some work by theologians on individual eschatology that mesh with the new focus on Christ’s humanity. “The basic question, as all these authors see it, is how we are to make sense of life in the face of death and what the Gospel of Jesus as the Christ tells us about death and about the meaning of human life in face of death.”77 These ideas must be made intelligible and translated to the masses outside the walls of academia if there is any hope of addressing the poverty in death ministry and to counter the competing meaningless voices in the culture. Perhaps this will lead to the Church’s reclamation of its unique understanding of thanatos and the value of soulwork that has somehow become de-emphasized in the popular mind.
Rolheiser gives us a tangible sense of the shift Catholics have experienced in the last 30 years, a shift away from some of the practices of soulwork.
Thus, you were not just a Catholic because you went to church and respected the
church’s laws on sex and marriage; you were also one because you did a number of
other things: You were a Catholic because you did not eat meat on Fridays, fasted
during Lent, gave money to the poor, prayed the rosary, supported the foreign
missions, and participated in various other devotional practices. To be a Catholic
meant attending benediction; praying the Stations of the Cross; saying litanies to the
Blessed Virgin Mary, St. Joseph, and the Sacred Heart; going to church on first
Fridays and first Saturdays; reading the lives of the saints and other devotional books,
praying for the souls in purgatory; incorporating certain sacramentals, like icons, holy
water, and blessed metals into your life; and going to various shrines like Lourdes
and Fatima.78

Some of these activities may no longer have intelligibility in the progressing world and theology, but their strength is in their simplicity and amenability to habit. Catholics of past generations may have had a better chance of intersecting the paths of their everyday lives with the way of Christ by adopting these activities of contained and ritual self-denial into some regular frequency of observance. Even so, Rolheiser notes that these are not the essence of faith. But the practice and appreciation of soulwork is vital to finding the ground of meaning in the scandal of the cross. At the same time the concept of soulwork is threatening because it runs counter to the other messages bombarding us daily, both from without and within. Productive soulwork depends on the ability to think beyond the factual, literal sense and to appreciate the meaning in myth and paradox. The appreciation and integration of these deeper and counter-intuitive strains of our faith will also take time. The source and inspiration of the answer can be found in the paschal mystery.

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CHAPTER 4. PASCHAL MYSTERY


In the face of subliminal formation and nominal Christianity, an observation by St. Paul resonates strongly with the Church’s present dilemma, that proclaiming Christ crucified continues to be a stumbling block and foolishness to most contemporary hearers (1 Cor. 1:23). Rohr begins his book with this brief verse to himself:

Inherent Unmarketability
How do you make attractive that which is not?
How do you sell emptiness, vulnerability, and nonsuccess?
How do you talk descent when everything is about ascent?
How can you possibly market letting-go in a capitalist culture?
How do you present Jesus to a Promethean mind?
How do you talk about dying to a church trying to appear perfect?
This is not going to work (which might be my first step).79


It is only through the lesson of the paschal mystery, integrating its message into the living praxis of believers, that any of this might come to pass. This is obviously a dilemma reaching into all parts of Christian living, but the motivation to address this in a ministry around death and dying could be the start to a subtle paradigm shift. There is an obvious hunger for wholeness and meaning in the average person’s lives, and in their making peace with having to die, that presents an opportunity for evangelization and a blossoming of the vision of Vatican II. It has to start with the fundamental understanding, and living, of the Gospel message.
Too often Christians give in to the temptation to skip directly to the resurrection as the foundation for their hope, meaning and community, since the passion and death of Jesus appear to lack these elements to the rational mind. This supports the idea that there is no value to be found in discomfort or loss or death--a defeating posture because when these calamities inevitably arrive in our lives we are left with only despair, fear and isolation. But the Gospels present the opportunity of redemption from this desperate state in the paradox of Jesus’ way, and we have been assured that this is the only path to the resurrection. “And he said to all, ‘If any man would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it; and whoever loses his life for my sake, he will save it’” (Luke 9:23-24).
We all want the resurrection, but must pass through our personal form of passion and death in order to obtain this. It is crucial that today’s believers be able to see that the foundations for hope, meaning and community actually do lie here, that there is no need, or success, in trying to skip to the reward of resurrection. Embracing the way of Jesus Christ prepares us for the approaching storm and assures us that God is still with us even as it rages and batters our person. In this chapter then, I will review the paschal mystery as our foundation of Christian meaning, hope and faith community that enables us to faithfully weather our personal storms and death.
The Paschal Mystery as “The Way”
For Christians struggling to understand the ultimate meaning of their lives, it is important to be able to see the personal relevance, and call, of the paschal mystery. This is the treasure hidden in the fields and the pearl of great value that we must diligently search for. When Christ bids us come and die, he does so not to increase our pain but to help us find meaning and salvation in the struggle that inevitably comes to all. The call to follow Christ is not an interesting historical footnote, made just to Jewish peasants in the first century, but an invitation to every generation to walk the way of preparation that brings community, meaning and hope into the synthesis of mankind’s existence. It does exact a cost, especially difficult in the presence of any residue of narcissism, to surrender completely to God’s providence.
This essential pattern in Christianity is unmistakable when one is ready to see it in the narrative examples of the Bible and consistently throughout the broad sweep of the Christian tradition. Borg notes, “The synoptic gospels not only report that Jesus spoke about dying as the path to new life; their literary structure as a whole is also shaped by the theme of death and resurrection as ‘the way’ of Jesus.”80 It is no coincidence that the passion and resurrection narrative is the centerpiece and focus of all four Gospels, nor that Mark’s work begins by quoting Isaiah about “the way of the Lord.”81 We are being instructed directly that this is the only way to follow Jesus Christ and that faithfulness requires a path of kenosis, a process of self-emptying and completely letting go into God’s hands. How difficult this is when the ego has formed in the American mythology of self-making and rugged independence. This is nothing less than a titanic clash of mythologies.
It is in the wilderness that the way of the Lord is prepared, in the desert that the highway for God is made straight (Isa. 40:3). Both of these terrains have long been symbolic as places where people go for self-purification and re-alignment with God’s will in a process of asceticism and self-emptying. The Israelites had to wander for forty years in the desert, a symbolic passage that is replete with struggles of human will and “stiffneck” behavior that must be given up before arrival at the promised land. Why would we think that our pattern would be any different?
Even more frightening to the human psyche is that all human journeys must end in death. There was no escape even for Jesus the Christ, despite his divine person.